I Learned to Deal with the Pain by Helping Others

By Mark Schantzer

My mission in life is to promote the awareness and the prevention of suicide. It has been 3 years since I lost my son Desmond. I still cry. I visit the cemetery every single day. I pray for him. I ask why…

Nothing has changed. The only thing that has changed is that I have learned to live better with the pain. The pain does not and will not ever go away. You only learn to live with it.

Suicide has such a ripple effect. Mother, father, brother, friends, aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins, employers, co-workers…. I can go on and on with the list. When someone dies, not by suicide, people say, they lived a good life or now they are not suffering any longer. There is nothing to say or nothing that can be said when someone takes their own life.

We all need to work together to get in the minds of those who are contemplating suicide and help them before it’s too late.